Forever Friends, Forever Facebook
What are the odds? I bumped into Patti Cross, a dear old high school friend on a friend’s Facebook page. I hadn’t seen her in years. Patti is now a senior lawyer in the Office of the Chief Justice in the Ontario Court of Justice.
So the mutual friend we discovered we had, Deborah Moskovitch, author of the wonderfully helpful book The Smart Divorce, invited me to come out for drinks with them. On a whim, I emailed Kim Wootton, now Kim Specht, a luxury travel executive who lives in Chicago, but back in the day, tore up Oshawa with Patti and me.
As luck would have it, Kim had just hours before booked a trip to Toronto — and so this past Wednesday, all four of us convened on the patio of Sassafrass. For the three of us who’d been through such pivotal moments in each others young lives, it seemed like space and time had never divided us. And Deborah should try and take this in the spirit in which it is intended: she fit right into the Oshawa girls club.
I’m glad we have Facebook and other online ways of connecting with those we’ve loved and lost along the way. I’m also glad I didn’t have it when I was a teenager or an emerging adult. People grow up out loud and online now, youthful indiscretions much more public.
Last night, I jumped onto the page of a Facebook friend and cringed. Someone had posted something very nasty about someone who had commented on his page. If I were a betting women, I’d say alcohol was involved.
I couldn’t help but imagine the person waking up blurry eyed with a splitting headache and the dawning memory of doing something she desperately wished she hadn’t done. But she did. And it was there for all to see. Until it wasn’t. The site’s owner removed the offending comment – but no doubt, some damage was done.
In the span of a few hours, I had experienced Facebook at its best and worst. I’d reconnected with dear old friends and witnessed someone else fall apart at the seams. Facebook is not for the rash, not for the bitter, and definitely not for the drunk. But then, you could say that about almost anything that matters in this life.